I recently reluctantly had to cancel a couple of days work due to illness. I hated doing that as a self employed person but alas the body was not able to continue. I had a bronchial infection that left me flat on my you know what!
Life has a way of making its point known whether we like it or not. Clearly I had been pushing myself too hard and something had to give. When going about your life there can be a tendency to go into the auto pilot mode. In this mode we tend to not pay attention to our needs, sign and symptoms that are dialoguing with us and trying make us stop and listen.
Unfortunately what will happen we will hit a brick wall and there will be no choice but to stop and listen.
The idea is to listen to life when it whispers as opposed to when it yells at us.
I recently worked with a client who embodied this “ignoring life’s dialogue” phenomenon. She first got a whisper in the form of a stomach ache. She could not stop long enough in her life to cook for herself so all she ate was fast food. Her body would periodically complain with mild stomach pain. This went on for months. She became highly accustomed to her fast paced life style in a way that she normalized eating at McDonald’s 4 to 5 times a week. Her digestion would kick up a fuss periodically and she would shut it up with antacids etc. Last week she ended up in the emergency department with doubling over pain. Her gall bladder needed to come out. Her surgeon asked her what she had been eating for the past while. When she told him her diet he scolded her and warned her to care for herself in a more responsible way because now that she did not have a gall bladder anymore, she would not be able to eat that way anymore unless she wanted to end up in the hospital more often with more serious complications like a stroke etc.
Life is trying to speak with us. We need to listen. We need to decode the various messages it is giving us so that we don’t end up with a two by four over our head so that we finally stop and listen!
By Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, CCC Holistic Psychotherapist
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