Culture Sensitive Issue: Assertiveness

Posted by: Hailing Huang on May 22, 2012 4:29 pm

Often when client’s presenting issue is of abusive relationships, one of the possible reasons is they lack of the skill of being assertive. So sharing the information about self-identity, boundary issues, and teaching the skill of being assertiveness become an inseparable part of counselling.

However, the topic of being assertiveness has to be handled sensitively for clients who come from different cultural backgrounds, such as Chinese. Chinese value the virtues of tolerance, harmony, and of sacrificing their own needs for the sake of other parties, and also give up their desires.  So the teaching of being assertive, speak up for yourself, declare your own need may sound like the opposite, going against all of their old doctrines.

When the Chinese client comes in for counselling, they may feel depressed because of the abusive situation. While, within their mentality, most of the times they still want to believe that what they have done is worthwhile, has value and meaning. They believe people will respect them by their acts of sacrifice, tolerance, and their resilience. So when a counselor introduces the concept of assertiveness, standing up and speaking  for their feelings, thoughts, ideas; it could cause tremendous stress to client, which may lead to a certain level of confusion and the client may  reject  the suggestion.

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Is Modern Entertainment Conducive to Mental Health?

Posted by: Maritza Rodriguez on May 22, 2012 4:25 pm

I recently came upon Duane Schultz’s work in his book, “Growth Psychology: Models of the Healthy Personality”. I was struck by four of his characteristics for mentally healthy individuals:

  1. Being responsible for one’s own destiny.
  2. Knowing one’s strengths and deficits.
  3. Being anchored in the present versus the past or future.
  4. Quest for opportunities and growth through new goals and experiences.

I immediately thought of the reality TV that seems to have permeated our wavelengths. It appears to be full of fighting with others, boasting of one’s importance while negating any personal weaknesses and blaming others when life goes astray.

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Who Says it Has To Be Boring? Creativity in Online Counselling

Posted by: Dawn Schell on May 22, 2012 4:20 pm

Whether I am doing face-to-face, asynchronous email, or video counselling I like to incorporate creative approaches in my work.  Here’s some of the creative things I have tried with my online clients.

Collages – I give my clients specific directions for creating a collage (e.g. creating a vision of their preferred future). Then they can either scan or photograph it and send me a copy so we can discuss it in session. Recently I was introduced to www.polyvore.com as a way to do digital collages.  It has distinct possibilities.

Poetry – when it seems relevant I have given clients poetry to read and reflect on.  Clients have also shared poetry with me, either their own and another’s.  Last year one client even shared songs he had written about his break up. 

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4 Basic Steps for Preventing Compassion Fatigue

Posted by: Siri Brown on May 22, 2012 4:14 pm

There is an analogy I use with my compassion fatigued clients and workshop participants to try and conceptualize the “burnout” process.  I tell them it is like standing in the hot sun, for hours, with no hat, sunblock or shade, and willing yourself not to get sunburned.   Eventually, despite your mental efforts, your body will pay the price.  And so, unfortunately, can it be with helping others.

This blog will hopefully arm you with some tools and techniques that will act as your sunblock.  Like the sun, our clients’ issues are not “good” or “bad”.  Also like the sun, extended exposure can have a significant impact on our health.   Therefore preparing ourselves prior to meeting with clients can help ensure ongoing enjoyment of the work we do.

Step 1:  Educate yourself.  Learn everything you can about the costs and challenges of helping others.  Understand the trauma process, what secondary traumatic stress is, and the signs or symptoms of Compassion Fatigue and professional burnout.  Having a good supervisor or mentor, who can help you navigate the balancing act of helping others while taking care of yourself, can be invaluable.  Plus, it is not unusual for others to notice when we are feeling stressed or worn out before we do.

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Wellness Tips from “Everyday Wellness” (formerly The Self-Care Daily)

Posted by: Derrick Shirley on May 15, 2012 8:00 am


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Tip #111: F.E.A.R. spells T.R.O.U.B.L.E.

I came across an interesting acronym for F.E.A.R. that may help to keep things in perspective when venturing into the murky waters of the unknown (*cue dramatic music);

F-alse, E-vidence, A-ppearing, R-eal.

This may be useful to consider in contexts where our thoughts take a situation and exaggerate it to the point of worry and discomfort (e.g., “What if I don’t get the job?”).

If you are in a different situation however, such as being face to face with a different threat (eg., a mountain lion) here is another acronym for F.E.A.R. I found that supports a different message:

F-orget, E-verything, A-nd, R-un.

I couldn’t help but laugh at the second one.

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Reading for May

Posted by: Priya Senroy on May 15, 2012 7:00 am

I was approached by a counsellor not so long ago, who asked me about using creativity in counselling and I found an interesting article on a research which focused on the following questions:

The research questions were as follows: 

1. How many beginning counselors used creativity in counseling?

2. Did beginning counselors think that using creativity benefited their clients?

3. Did beginning counselors think that using creativity benefited them?

4. What materials would beginning counselors like to have access to in order to use creativity in counseling?

5. Did beginning counselors feel as though they had these materials available to use?

6. Would they have felt more inclined to use creativity if materials had been supplied to them by an in-house clinic at their university?

7. Did beginning counselors know that creative techniques were options to use in counseling?
Reading the research gave me some interesting information. So here it is for you

http://counselingoutfitters.com/vistas/vistas11/Article_38.pdf




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Parental Expressions of Love and Affection

Posted by: Asa Don Brown on May 8, 2012 5:03 pm

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Love means not ever having to say you’re sorry.
                                                                                                          ~ Erich Segal

 As parents, we may recall our own parent’s physical and verbal expressions of affection.  Becoming parents changes our perceptional lenses, shifting our previous views and expressions of affection.   As a parent, we are looking through a lens of discovery evaluating what is appropriate and what is inappropriate.  How do we determine what is appropriate or inappropriate? Who’s to say that my perceptions of affection are correct, while your perceptions are incorrect?    Should there be standards for gauging various forms and degrees of affection?

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Wellness Tips from “Everyday Wellness” (formerly The Self-Care Daily)

Posted by: Derrick Shirley on May 4, 2012 4:37 pm

Notice to “Counselling Connect” blog readers: I hope this message finds you well and I sincerely hope you have been enjoying the self-care articles and wellness tips. As the subscriber list has grown, in the upcoming months this email service will undergo some exciting changes including a new name “Everyday Wellness”, new picturesque headers and new content. Here are your wellness tips for this time around – enjoy!

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How to Create the Stillness Necessary for the Spiritual Dove to Descend

Posted by: Hailing Huang on May 2, 2012 2:47 pm

Spring is the season of Easter, remembering the death and resurrection of Jesus. It is also the time of Lent, many people choose this special time to be baptized. When Jesus was baptized by John, a dove landed on his shoulder; it states in Matthew 2: 16:  the spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him.  This description leads me to think, if we regard the dove as spirituality, then how do we prepare ourselves to invite the Spiritual Dove to land on our shoulder?

In a practical way, in order for dove to land, the atmosphere needs to be calm, and safe. If we apply this tangible rule to understand the intangible rule of attracting the Spiritual Dove, it may indicate that we need to be calm, still, feel safe and make ourselves ready to invite the dove to land.

Then the next question is, how do we make ourselves ready? We may have more conveniences such as transportation and communication than our parent’s generation because of our aggressive and rapidly progressing technologies. But these conveniences also have the counter products which is the requests of multitasks and multi-roles.

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Evolving Senses of Ego and Adolescent Vocational Identity Formation

Posted by: Jeffrey Landine on May 2, 2012 2:44 pm

In our last blog, Jeff described how Mark Savickas explains identity from a constructivist perspective, within which the individual uses their cognitive linguistic abilities together with information from the societal/cultural context to arrive at a constructed vocational identity. Adherents to this approach suggest that the connections between internal psychological dynamics and the messages and demands of society interact to give rise to identity.  In this blog, I (John) will briefly discuss another approach to identity formation known as the structural stage approach and point out components of this perspective that contribute to vocational identity formation.

The structural stage approach focuses on intrapsychic configurations that change over time.  At each particular stage of development, this configuration (typically the ego) enables the individual to interpret and make sense of their social/cultural world.  Structural development follows a particular and sequential pattern over time. Each successive configuration helps the person to have an increasingly complex way of making sense of their experiences.   To describe this process of change, the structural stage approach uses Piaget’s idea of accommodation. When new information can no longer be integrated into existing structures or cognitive schemas, the schema are changed. 

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