The counsellor/client relationship might just be one of the most intimate connections you will ever experience. Counselling provides a safe space to discuss you inner most thoughts and secrets without judgment. It allows you to process, work through issues, and discuss fears and blocks with another human being. You can be vulnerable without the fear of being exposed. Not many relationships allow you to be who you are without demanding anything in return.
That being said, it is important to find the right counsellor for you. As with any other relationship, you must feel comfortable with your counsellor or psychotherapist and be aware of the connection with him or her. That is a very personal experience and every person has their own method of bonding with others. Much of that connection is intuitive in nature. You “feel” this relationship is right and/or you “feel” that you connect positively with the counsellor. The rapport is highly personal and you should follow your “gut instinct” when choosing a professional counsellor.
Some questions to ask yourself when choosing a psychotherapist or counsellor are: Does he or she empathize with what I am saying and experiencing? Do I feel he is really listening and hearing what I have to say? Does she care about me without being overly involved in my situation? Do I feel comfortable with this person?
The powerful relationship between the counsellor and the client involves responsibility on both sides. Thus, the client must be fully involved in choosing the counsellor that best suits him or her at the moment for the particular challenge or situation. Only the client can discern the best decision for himself. And when the decision has been made, the personal knowledge and transformation that can transpire during counselling can be awe inspiring.
*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA