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Oppositional Children

Posted by: Asa Don Brown on September 11, 2012 4:40 pm

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

                                                                                     ~ Mahatma Gandhi  

 

Children who act out in an oppositional manner, are frequently drawing upon an internal struggle to oppose or reject something in their lives.  Oppositional children are often blamed for their defiant behaviors, but are not always offered a listening ear, to hear why they are acting out in a disobedient and uncooperative way.

It is important to recognize that not all children who are acting out or behaving in an oppositional manner, should be diagnosed.  In fact, it is of extreme importance that children who act out in negative ways be given an opportunity to discuss the problems that plague their young lives.  Moreover, as a good clinician, we should be looking at the entire scope of the child’s life, including the psychosocial and economic perspective.  Unfortunately, in some egregious cases, children are reacting rather than simply acting out.  Therefore, as a clinician we must offer our best detective skills when looking at the life of a child. 

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Inspiring Your Child

Posted by: Asa Don Brown on August 30, 2012 11:35 am

“I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” 

                                                                                    ~ Thomas A. Edison   

Failure is good, failure is necessary, failure stimulates a desire for success.  When an individual fails, we are instinctively and unconsciously prompted to discover a path to success.  Successful people are inspired people; they are unwilling to accept the “status quo.”  Inspired individuals are willing to challenge the norm, ask questions, seek solutions, and forge through unbeaten paths.  Inspired individuals are unwilling to give up.

THE GOOD OF FAILURE

The importance of failure is that it reminds us that we can do better, be better, and achieve more. 

Why are we so concerned about making mistakes?  Why are we afraid of failure?  As a society, we are taught that failure is a remark of our character, our persona, our very worth.  From Hollywood to Bollywood we view movies and television shows that remark upon the negativity of failure. 

The Positive Aspect of Failure

If I fail, then I have a guidepost, indicating the areas with which I can improve. Failure has become the barometer of negativity, rather than a potential of opportunity.  Without failure, we could not relish in the achievement of our successes.  As a good parent or teacher, we should teach our children that failure is an opportunity for improvement and growth, rather than a blockade deterring us from our greatest potential.  Failure is no more than a mere challenge begging us to be better. 

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Love, What is Love?

Posted by: Asa Don Brown on August 17, 2012 1:49 pm

“True love is the best thing in the world, except for cough drops.”

                  ~ William Goldman, The Princess Bride

 First of all, I am a hopeless romantic.   On August 16, 2012, I will have the pleasure of celebrating my 15th wedding anniversary to my beautiful bride, my vulpine lover, my best friend, and the mother of my precocious, charming, and sometimes mischievous children.  

During the past 15 years, I have spent countless days gaining new insights into this person that I have come to know as my wife.  Do not get me wrong, we have had our emotional upheavals and times of trials and tribulations, but overall, my wife is unmistakably my best-friend. 

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*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA