{"id":956,"date":"2011-08-23T12:55:14","date_gmt":"2011-08-23T16:55:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ccpa.scottbuckingham.ca\/blog\/?p=956"},"modified":"2011-08-23T12:55:14","modified_gmt":"2011-08-23T16:55:14","slug":"corporal-punishment-discipline","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ccpa-accp.ca\/fr\/corporal-punishment-discipline\/","title":{"rendered":"Corporal Punishment – Discipline"},"content":{"rendered":"

As a parent, I began my journey of parenthood, and life, thinking back upon my own childhood. What were my likes and my dislikes as a child?\u00a0 What types of discipline had I received either through an external organization (i.e. faith, school, other), extended family situation, or at home, that had caused me internal strife?\u00a0 Did I always feel safe when receiving this discipline? If not, why not? Moreover, this internal dialogue that has occurred throughout my life, has effected my personal and professional development. What could I do to ensure that my own children are raised in an environment that is reflective of my desires? Are there measures that I can take to ensure that my children are raised in a positive environment? Importantly, do not try being a better parent than your own parents, rather be the best parent<\/em> that you<\/em> can be for your children.<\/em>\u00a0<\/p>\n

Discipline is a vital aspect of growth.\u00a0 Reflectively, praise is equally as important for fostering growth as discipline is in the life of a child.\u00a0 We, may recall our own parent\u2019s techniques of parenting, discipline, and praise.\u00a0 We may also recall our schools resources for using discipline and praise.\u00a0 As a child, I recall having received discipline and praise by both my parents and my school. I recall measures taken by both, that in today\u2019s standards would be considered drastic and possibly reprehensible.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Discipline should not have features that are overbearing, hypercritical, or containing some forcible correction to the physical body.\u00a0 The use of swatting, spanking, slapping, pinching, punching, hitting, ear or tongue pulling, biting, soap in the mouth, or any other form of physical control, should have no place in the raising of a child.\u00a0 If you were to be honest with yourself, a child that is \u201cdeserving of a spanking\u201d is often a child that has gained control over the parent.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

If I, as a married man used any of the forms of corporal punishment to correct a perceivable wrong in my relationship, I could be effectively arrested and charged with battery.\u00a0 Why then, should my children be allowed to endure the hardships of swatting, spanking, slapping, pinching, punching, hitting, ear or tongue pulling, biting, soap in the mouth, or any other form of physically manipulative punishment?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Is it ethically “right” to use Corporal Punishment? Corporal Punishment is any form of punishment or correction that is intended on inflicting physical pain and mental anguish on the life of another.\u00a0<\/p>\n

So, is it right to use corporal punishment? The answer must become a resounding no!!! Parents, schools, faith organizations, and others, typically use corporal punishment when they themselves are without answers or solutions to correct or resolve a problem.\u00a0 As an adult, what would you do if your boss was granted the right. by the courts or some other legal body, to use corporal punishment in your place of employment? Would you resist being spanked, slapped, swatted, or physically scolded? Why, why not? Would it be ethical for an employer to be capable of using physical discipline? Why then, are we agreeable to allow physical battery of a child?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Corporal punishment is inexcusable, unethical, and morally reprehensible. <\/em><\/p>\n

If corporal punishment is a good idea; why not use it in our legal systems to resolve traffic violations, misdemeanors, and other minor offenses?\u00a0 Why not use corporal punishment? Because, each time in our global community that corporal punishment has been made allowable and permissible, people suffered at the hands of individuals who lost control<\/em>.\u00a0\u00a0 Why should corporal punishment be banned altogether? Because, there are alternatives.\u00a0<\/p>\n

PERSONAL CONTROL<\/strong><\/p>\n

The problem is, few people discipline their children while in control or without prejudice.\u00a0 In most cases, the parent is fed up, exhausted, and personally inflamed by a childhood act.\u00a0 When a person is personally and emotionally involved, the situation can prove volatile in the best of circumstances. Good people make mistakes<\/em>. Why then, are we offering or allowing a recipe for plausible and considerable harm?<\/p>\n

PERCEPTION OF CONTROL<\/strong><\/p>\n

For many individuals, they perceive themselves as having or being in control <\/em>of their emotions, but the reality has been proven wrong time-and-time again.\u00a0<\/p>\n

While corporal punishment has been used for a variety of purposes, it\u2019s primary roots stems from a religious background. While many claim that spanking is not a form of beating, it\u2019s this fine line that many cross.\u00a0 A recent case resulted in a young child losing her life.\u00a0 Parent\u2019s Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz followed the instructions set out in a book called, \u201cTo Train Up a Child\u201d by author Michael Pearl.\u00a0 The Schatz\u2019s were spanking their children, Lydia and Zariah, when Lydia perished from the severe spanking.\u00a0 The problem is, they spanked to create pain in order to reinforce a discipline.\u00a0 Obviously, the Schatz\u2019s perception of control was lost during this spanking session.<\/p>\n

WHAT ARE THE ALTERNATIVES?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Parents and children should both receive timeouts.\u00a0 The parent should accept a timeout to cool down and refocus ensuring personal control. The child should be given a timeout based on his\/her age.\u00a0 If your child is 5, then your child should receive a 5 minute time-out.\u00a0 It\u2019s a minute per year of life:\u00a0 5 years (x) 1 minute = 5 minutes.<\/strong> Again, placing a child into timeout ensures that the parent can retool and prepare to positively reengage.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Be creative, inventive, resourceful, and proactive.\u00a0 Discuss the matter of discipline with your child.\u00a0 Ask your child what he\/she feels would be a good consequence for his\/her behavior or attitude<\/em>.\u00a0\u00a0 Consider looking online for legitimate sites and resources:\u00a0 Center for Effective Discipline; Project No Spank; etc.\u00a0 <\/em>Gain advice from those you trust and have shown positively effective parenting. You might consider brainstorming <\/em>with other parents, the school, or friends who have children of a similar age.<\/p>\n

Always<\/em><\/strong> reaffirm your child’s goodness.\u00a0 Don’t use negative<\/em> images or language when you disciple your child, such as:\u00a0 you\u2019re a bad child<\/em>, or I’d like to beat you within an inch of your life<\/em>. Remember as the parent, you should be positively in control.\u00a0 Refrain from using language that stresses hate, resentment, anger, or intolerance. Children need a familial environment that is safe<\/em>, caring, nurturing, and unconditionally accepting and loving.<\/em>\u00a0\u00a0 Children should always feel secure and safe in their home and school environments.\u00a0\u00a0 Furthermore, it is okay to disclose your disappointment in your child\u2019s behaviors or attitudes, but it is never okay to make a child feel as though they are a bad person<\/strong>.\u00a0 A child’s wellbeing is ultimately placed into your hands.\u00a0 If you breach their right to safety and wellbeing, then you are ultimately placing your child’s life in harm\u2019s way.<\/p>\n

Are you proving an advocate for your child? Are you instilling good parenting techniques and qualities in the life of your child? Have you chosen to be a positively influential role model? Parenting has no concrete absolutes, but as a person you should seek to grow and positively influence your children.\u00a0 If you have had moments you have lost control; forgive yourself <\/em>and move forward<\/em>.\u00a0 Good parents make mistakes, but seek to learn from your mistakes while moving your family forward.<\/p>\n

References<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0Center for Effective Discipline (2011).\u00a0 Discipline at home. Discipline at school.\u00a0 Retrieved\u00a0August 18, 2011 http:\/\/www.stophitting.com<\/a><\/p>\n

CNN (2011) Ungodly discipline. Retrieved August 16, 2011 http:\/\/ac360.blogs.cnn.com\/2011\/08\/17\/video-ungodly-discipline\/<\/a><\/p>\n

CNN (2011) Ungodly discipline. Retrieved August 17, 2011\u00a0http:\/\/www.cnn.com\/video\/?\/video\/bestoftv\/2011\/08\/15\/exp.ac.tuchman.punishment.cnn<\/a><\/p>\n

Couture, L. A. (2008) Instead of medicating and punishing: Healing the causes of our children\u2019s\u00a0acting-out behavior by parenting and educating the way nature intended.<\/em> Oregon:\u00a0Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing.<\/p>\n

Griffin, M. M., Robinson D.H. & Carpenter, H.M. (2000).\u00a0 Changing teacher education student\u00a0attitudes toward using corporal punishment in the classroom. Research in the Schools,<\/em> 7(1), 27-30\u00a0<\/p>\n

Osofsky, J. D., (Ed.) (2004) Young children and trauma, Intervention and treatment<\/em>. New York, NY: The Guilford Press.<\/p>\n

Robinson, D. H., Funk, D. C., Beth, A., & Bush, A. M. (2005).\u00a0 Changing beliefs about corporal\u00a0punishment: Increasing knowledge about ineffectiveness to build more consistent moral\u00a0and informational beliefs.\u00a0 Journal of Behavioral Education<\/em>, 14, 117-139<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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