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For those who work relationally, that is, for those who employ in therapy sessions, their experience of the client and the \u2018work\u2019 together, sharing personal details or stories is something you do from time to time, whether it is elicited or not.\u00a0\u00a0 Modeled early on during the first number of sessions, as part of how they \u2018sit\u2019 and are present with clients, the therapist\u2019s disclosures may be said to help create the safe and collaborative \u2018third space\u2019 of therapy. But, what about when the client is an adolescent? What about when three sessions into the work, the young client exhibits great pride for the kinds of manipulations they successfully \u2018use\u2019 with their parents, making you wonder briefly if they might employ this art with you. When the subject matter turns to illicit drugs and the adolescent\u2019s use of them and they enquire as to whether you (who for them at the moment is an adult, a therapist, and someone he\/she is considering trusting) use them, the therapist\u2019s disclosure in this instance speaks to issues of the therapist\u2019s trust of the client, interest in authenticity and ultimately an unspoken equality in honesty in portraying personal experience.<\/p>\n

Answering truthfully to a question that comes out of the natural flow of the exchange can mean a \u2018powering down\u2019 before the youth can make the therapist-client relationship more human. Feelings of being exposed to someone younger might arise making you feel uncomfortable. Knowing yourself and what is the source of this discomfort seems important. Telling a lie, even when the likelihood of the youth ever knowing different might undermine the authenticity of the emerging connection from the therapist\u2019s perspective. If this tricky moment were later in the work with the client, it\u2019d be a question of maintenance of the connection.<\/p>\n

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\nParents are frequently the reason why many adolescents \u2018present\u2019 for therapy. Parents can\u2019t support their adolescent at the particular moment or maybe it is a case that the real issue is more a family one, but, for different reasons, family therapy is not going to happen. Regardless, the parents want very much that you help their son or daughter with \u2018X\u2019, perhaps with expressing on \u2018Y\u2019, and maybe to support them with decision \u2019Z\u2019. This is often how adolescents come to therapy. Epistemologically speaking, the therapist determines his\/her own sense of what is \u2018up\u2019 with the youth (and family). Relationally, this means full engagement and so, what if the answer is \u2018yes\u2019 I have smoked marijuana, how does this help us\/you right now?<\/p>\n

Though parents are the responsible and curious \u2018extension\u2019 of the client, eventually the adolescent needs to get the chance to be the client. Not always \u2013 probably not in situations outside western cultural domains. Indeed much comes out of the \u2018thick description\u2019 of our client\u2019s everyday life that we seek to understand. Wanting young people to trust in us and in the processes of therapy, means being authentic, as a \u2018means\u2019 to bond, to know, and eventually, to help according to what is a collaborative and supportive client-therapist effort. How, when and what we disclose on a personal level to an adolescent when working relationally requires in-the moment responses.\u00a0\u00a0 Knowing our comfort zones and how we might handle the personal questions that put us on the spot are important practical considerations of relational work with adolescents.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For those who work relationally, that is, for those who employ in therapy sessions, their experience of the client and the \u2018work\u2019 together, sharing personal details or stories is something you do from time to time, whether it is elicited or not.\u00a0\u00a0 Modeled early on during the first number of sessions, as part of how […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1001030,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,820],"tags":[562,1117,25,1051,1395,260,87,1394,516,93],"class_list":["post-6118","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parentingchildrenandtheclassroom","category-relationshipsmarriageandthefamily","tag-adolescents","tag-barry-dsouza","tag-counselling","tag-family","tag-honesty","tag-parents","tag-psychotherapy","tag-relational-work","tag-relationships","tag-support"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nPractical Considerations of Relational Work With Adolescents - 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