{"id":61154,"date":"2024-09-19T15:51:51","date_gmt":"2024-09-19T19:51:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ccpa-accp.ca\/?p=61154"},"modified":"2024-09-19T15:53:32","modified_gmt":"2024-09-19T19:53:32","slug":"empowerment-is-a-relationship-dance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ccpa-accp.ca\/fr\/empowerment-is-a-relationship-dance\/","title":{"rendered":"Empowerment is a Relationship Dance"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"section  section--img \">\n  <div class=\"wrapper\">\n    <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ccpa-accp.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/09\/Empowerment-is-a-Relationship-Dance.png\" width=\"1640\" height=\"600\" alt=\"\">\n  <\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"section section--text-block\">\n  <div class=\"wrapper\">\n    <div style=\"text-align: left\">For those of you who\u2019ve taken dance lessons, you know that a big part of learning a dance is mastering the footwork, especially when dancing with a partner.\u00a0 In order to perform smooth and graceful steps, you have to be able to move in sync, asserting your steps and allowing your partner to assert theirs, always flowing and never colliding.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">A healthy relationship is just like that: two individuals who welcome each other in their personal space, neither overstepping the other\u2019s boundaries nor allowing themselves to be stepped on.\u00a0 Two people in a healthy relationship can be vulnerable with each other, yet secure that the other will have their best interest at heart and never mean to hurt them.\u00a0 If one of them does step on the other\u2019s toes, the transgressor quickly and simply apologizes, resumes his or her place, and the dance continues.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">A saying I\u2019ve told many clients is that a relationship is meant to be a dance, not a wrestling match.\u00a0 We\u2019re supposed to work together to help each other flourish into the best version of ourselves, not beat the other into submission of what we think their role should be in our relationship.\u00a0 It requires an ability to be ready to respond to the other\u2019s needs, to be ready to compromise on anything except our very core values, to humbly admit when we are at fault.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">My wife and I have a saying when tempers get tense between us.\u00a0 One of us will invite the other to step out of the boxing ring and onto the dance floor.\u00a0 Having taken Muay Thai classes as a family (a form a kickboxing), the image is real for us.\u00a0 When in the ring, one tries to exploit the opponent\u2019s weaknesses and blind sides to land successful blows.\u00a0 The match ends when one wins and one loses.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">The problem with the boxing ring approach in a relationship is as follows.\u00a0 First, you see the person with whom you are meant to have this healthy relationship as an adversary or an opponent.\u00a0 The trust is compromised and you feel the need to protect yourself from them.\u00a0 Respect gives way to fear and\/or anger.\u00a0 Second, when one of you loses in the conflict, it doesn\u2019t matter who won because the relationship lost.\u00a0 You not only stepped on your dance partner\u2019s toes, you threw them onto the floor, bringing the dance to a complete stop.\u00a0 Someone got hurt, trust has been broken, and so both partners step away from each other emotionally.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">Now let\u2019s go back to the image of an empowering relationship being a smooth, graceful dance.\u00a0 No relationship is without struggles, so it will never be this entirely flawless dance.\u00a0 Still, even in the midst of struggles, we can continue to flourish into what author and speaker Matthew Kelly calls the best version of ourselves.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"x_elementToProof\" style=\"text-align: left\">For whatever relationship in which we find ourselves, we can be an epicenter of empowerment for each and every one of them, thus being the best version of ourselves and bringing others to be their best as well.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\">As a spouse I can learn from the disagreements with my spouse to patiently listen to their version of the facts, to put their needs before my own when called for, to humbly accept and acknowledge when I was in the wrong.\u00a0 As a friend, I can welcome unconditionally the other friend to vent their feelings or thoughts when needed, go out of my way when possible to make the other\u2019s life a little easier.\u00a0 As a co-worker, I can be this colleague who has my colleagues\u2019 backs when the workload gets especially heavy, or this manager or supervisor who always tries to make the time needed to help others succeed or to validate their hard work when I could easily fixate on my own and let them be.\u00a0 These are but a few examples or the myriad I could list.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"x_elementToProof\" style=\"text-align: left\">If I take a look at any relationship in my life, and there are as many as there are people in my life, what dynamic do I see?\u00a0 Am I engaged in this invigorating dance, or am I caught up in a struggle for dominance and control?<\/div>\n  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