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\"\"<\/a>Clinicians rarely have couples enter their offices proclaiming an overwhelming fondness, admiration, and unconditional love for one another\u00a0 \u201cIn Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50.\u00a0 Healthy marriages are good for couples\u2019 mental and physical health.\u00a0 They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems.\u201d (APA, Online, 2012)<\/p>\n

Why are healthy marriages good? If you are in a healthy marriage, you are experiencing positive feedback, unconditional acceptance, unconditional love, unconditional approval, and the admiration of another.\u00a0 You are benefiting from the positivity of that relationship.<\/p>\n

In unhealthy marriages, you may be experiencing marital strife, conflicts, and continuous disagreements. While unhealthy marriages are not irreparable, they maybe on pathways of irreversible damage.\u00a0 It is vitally important that if someone has entered an unhealthy stage in their marriage that they seek professional help to resolve their relationship conflicts.<\/p>\n

THE BREACH OF SAFETY<\/strong>
\nWhen an unhealthy marriage reaches a stage of abuse, neglect or maltreatment; they have reached a stage of cruelty or violence that breaches the couple\u2019s core foundation of safety. \u00a0While the initial foundations of healthy and unhealthy marriages commonly parallel; there is a divergence that occurs within the confines of an unhealthy marriage.<\/p>\n

SYMBIOTIC AND PARASITIC RELATIONSHIPS<\/strong>
\nFor relationships that have lasted an extended period of time, one person within that relationship might begin to feel as though their level of intimacy and cohesiveness has been lost.\u00a0 For a number of relationships, a partner or both may have a belief that their relationship is symbiotic.\u00a0\u00a0 Symbiotic relationships are casted by an idealistic perspective that their every thought, expression, belief system, feelings, and personal desires are mutually the same.\u00a0\u00a0 Whereas, the truth is, that the relationship has evolved into a more parasitic form rather than symbiotic.\u00a0 Parasitic relationships are based on the need perspective.\u00a0 If a person is without their partner, their ability to survive and thrive diminishes. Neither the symbiotic or the parasitic relationship are healthy perspectives of a relationship. \u00a0It is always important to remember that no marriage is perfect, but that in an unhealthy marriage dysfunction is the norm.<\/p>\n

Indications that you have reached a symbiotic or parasitic relationship:<\/p>\n